This lesson uses the book Enemy Pie by Derek Munson to explore finding commonality and making friends.
Materials and Setup
Materials & Setup:
Book: Enemy Pie by Derek Munson
Video (10 minutes)
Summary of the Story
When a new kid, Jeremy Ross, moves into the neighborhood, things seem different, maybe a bit scary. Maybe he’s mean; maybe he is there to hurt kids. One day, Dad suggests that Jeremy be invited to come over for “enemy pie.” The kids find all sorts of things to do together…and finally it’s time to eat the “enemy pie.”
This is a story of how change can happen.
Suggestions for reading for teacher spiritual preparation before exercise/lesson:
Proverbs 17:17 A friend loves you all the time. A brother is always there to help you. (International Children’s Bible)
Worship in Song, A Friends Hymnal
# 221 Magic Penny
#220 Love Grows One By One
Materials Needed for Activity Response:
For Individual Art Response:
- drawing paper
- crayons, markers, or pastels
- other supplies.
For Teacher-directed Activity:
Bake mini-pie cups following the instructions here. Need access to an oven and a full hour for the lesson. Thawed frozen pie dough cut into small pieces, a variety of pie filling ingredients including fresh berries, cup cake liners, muffin tins. Baking time 15-20 minutes.
Or make 3-minute apple pies following these instructions. Supplies: apples, graham crackers, cinnamon, sugar, cream cheese, access to a microwave.
Take Home Notes (one per family)
Note for children to take home after exercise/lesson or to email to parents during week prior to this lesson:
Today we read Enemy Pie, by Derek Munson. We learned about making new friends and how we can make changes in ourselves.
Welcome the children to the circle. Be sure to introduce everyone, if visitors are present.
Invite children and adults to go around the circle sharing one or two plusses and minuses from their day or week. It helps to ask for 2 items only, either 2 of one or one of each. Children are comfortable with a limit, unless another person’s comment sparks another one for an individual child.
Sing a centering song, such as “God’s Love is a Light,” hymn #218, Worship in Song, A Friends Hymnal, and/or one of the songs suggested in Materials Tab. In addition, or instead of, use breathing or other exercise to center the group. The simplest way is to breathe deeply three times. Adding lifting arms up and down with the breath or holding tummy during deep breaths can help.
Show the cover of the book, read the title and author’s name. Ask the children a question that invites them to wonder about the story.
“Have you ever been afraid to make friends with a new kid at school? “Let’s see what happens.”
Read the story, holding the book so all can see. Depending on reader’s comfort level with the children, allow comments during the story, especially from younger children.
After reading the story, invite the children to wonder about the story with you.
- I wonder if you have ever felt like the boy in the story did?
- I wonder where you see yourself in the story?
- I wonder what you liked best in the story today?
After the children have finished wondering and are ready to go to the next activity, introduce the option for Individual Reflective Art Response or a Teacher-directed Activity.
Individual Reflective Art Response
Children choose from a collection of attractive art supplies and work individually for about 15 minutes to create something of importance to the child. It may or may not be a direct reflection on the story they just heard and wondered about.
Options for Teacher-directed Activity
Practice introducing one another OR share the things you like to do when you play with your friends OR go outside and play.
Make “enemy pie” and “friendship pie” by baking mini-cupcake style pies or 3-minute apple pies. Share the snack with your friends.
Provide a 5-minute warning before the children need to clean up. After clean up, gather the children in a circle and ask them to name one thing for which they are grateful. Sing songs while waiting for their parents to pick them up, or before joining the adults after the rise of Meeting for Worship.
If the children join their loved ones while Meeting for Worship is still in progress, before you lead them back to the meeting room, invite them to remember how they still themselves and some things about the morning that they may want to think about during the final moments of Meeting for Worship.
Hand out the Take Home Notes, if using, as parents pick up the children in the First Day School room, or after the rise of Meeting for Worship, if joining loved ones in worship.
Sparkling Still provides tools for teachers of children ages 3-12. Included are sample lessons, a master lesson plan, ideas for building classroom community, an introduction to wondering questions and more.
Sparkling Still provides useful instructions on:
- Creating the circle and other components of your time together: pages 5-22
- Reading out loud with children: pages 16-17
- Wondering with children and adults: pages vii-xi and 6-7
- Individual Art Responses: page 7
- Art Supplies: pages 20-22
Credits: Anne Collins (SCYM), Sally Farneth (PhYM), Susan Hopkins (PacYM), and Erika Mittag (SCYM), Exercise Authors