Help Newcomers Understand Quaker Worship
Quaker meetings can help newcomers feel welcome by offering clear information and a meaningful worship experience. Quaker worship may feel unfamiliar to visitors. Friends gather in shared silence and listen for the Divine, also called the Light or Inner Teacher. Anyone, including children, may speak if they feel led.
The silence is active, not empty. Worshipers pay attention to feelings, insights, and the presence of Spirit. Because this kind of worship is different from many faith traditions, meetings should offer simple materials that explain what to expect and how to take part.
Be Intentional About Welcoming
Being welcoming takes intention. Small or new meetings may assume newcomers will blend in on their own. However, newcomers can feel just as isolated in a small group as in a large one, especially if the group feels like a close-knit family.
Invite newcomers to coffee hour or another social gathering. Food often helps people connect. Introduce newcomers to both long-time Friends and other visitors. Newcomers often feel most comfortable talking with others who are also new.
Build Personal Connections With Newcomers
Make sure newcomers can learn about your meeting and Quaker life. FGC’s newcomer cards can help share this information.
Follow up with newcomers within a few days of their visit. A phone call, email, text, or note lets them know they were noticed. One kind follow-up is enough. This is about appreciation rather than pressure.
Ask a Friend to care for or mentor each newcomer. Many people find their first Quaker meeting confusing or overwhelming. A welcoming companion can answer questions, explain unfamiliar terms, and invite the newcomer to upcoming events. Personal care makes a lasting difference.
Encourage Belonging and Keep Track of Visits
Invite newcomers to small groups, adult education, or other activities. These settings are often where deeper connections form.
Teach welcoming practices to the whole meeting. A sincere welcome from many Friends helps newcomers feel they belong. A helpful resource is the QuakerQuest booklet You Are Welcome Here.
Keep track of newcomers and their visits. Notice whether someone is attending for the first time or returning again. Acknowledging repeat visits shows care and helps newcomers feel seen and valued.
Last updated December 18, 2025.