Workshop Number: 110
Leaders: Lilia Fick, David Male
Who May Register?: Intergenerational (50% high school and young adults, 50% older)
Worship/Worship-Sharing: 30%
Lecture: 30%
Discussion: 10%
Experiential Activities: 30%

Who May Attend?
only full time attenders (participants should attend all week)
part-time attenders welcome (can come any session)
half gathering attenders welcome

Half-Gathering Attenders Welcome:
First half (Monday-Wednesday)
Second half (Wednesday/Thursday-Friday)

Together, intergenerationally, we will be invited to get out of our Quaker brains and into our childlike selves to figure out the basics of what it means to be a friend. How might this new understanding inform our lives as f/Friends in the world?

Workshop Description

Together, we will get out of our Quaker brains and shift our minds toward a state of childlike curiosity as we play in God’s sandbox, exploring what is at the heart of being a friend and how this might inform all of our relationships and guide our lives.

Last year, Lilia attended a workshop titled “What Does it Mean to be a Friend?” led by David. Although she left the workshop feeling enriched, she also carried a sense of disappointment. In hearing the backstory of how David titled his workshop, Lilia had the impression that the workshop would go more in depth about what it means to be a friend. It felt like a rich opportunity for fruitful discussion of another kind had been missed as the discussions seemed to keep drifting back toward answering what it means to be a Quaker. When approached about offering a workshop at FGC, she asked David to collaborate with her to continue the exploration of what it means, at its essence, to be a friend.

We hope you will join us in God’s sandbox, as we play with the idea of friendship and lay aside our notions of what it means to be a Quaker.

On the first day, David and Lilia will introduce the workshop and share some of their own explorations of this topic. Our days will begin with a period of expectant waiting worship. Each day, we will have a brief get-to-know-you activity. Throughout our 5-day online workshop, participants will explore queries in small groups and engage in discussions all together in the large group. Participants will be encouraged to journal (or use another art medium) to go deeper with the topic on their own. To foster personal wellbeing, participants will be encouraged to take time away from the screen each day to go outside for a walk. For at least one of their walks, each person will take a walk “by” themselves and share about this experience.

We look forward to spending this time with you!

Leader Experience


Lilia is a Young Adult Friend who was raised within the faith community. Lilia uses she/they pronouns. She is a member of Ottawa Monthly Meeting, Canadian Young Friends Yearly Meeting and Canadian Yearly Meeting. Since the pandemic began, Lilia has been a regular attender of Pendle Hill’s daily online Meeting for Worship. Currently, she serves on Continuing Meeting of Ministry & Counsel (her national level of Ministry & Counsel) and facilitates Meetings with a Chosen Focus at her local Meeting. This past year, Lilia co-led a retreat for Young Adult Friends, gave a talk at MIDWEEK hosted by Beacon Hill Friends House, facilitated Worship Sharing groups (both at Canadian Yearly Meeting and at Philadelphia Yearly Meeting), and acted as a mentor for a Younger Adult Friend through New York Yearly Meeting’s Mentorship program. By training, Lilia is an educator but is currently transitioning to healing-centered work. At the heart, Lilia’s ministry is to choose Love in all situations, to honour that of God in all that is, to help people move through trauma and heal the divides—finding pieces of the Truth on both sides and in the middle.


David is an Older Adult Friend who is a member and recorded minister of Stillwater Monthly Meeting, Ohio Yearly Meeting (OYM). David served as a worship sharing group leader at FGC last year. He has served on Friends World Committee for Consultation (FWCC) Section of the Americas Planning Committee and on their pastoral care committee.  David has led workshops at FWCC on Finding Love in the Bible and Varieties of Worship in the Society of Friends, in addition to teaching Quakerism at Olney Friends School and interest groups/workshops on this subject at New York Yearly Meeting and OYM Friends Center. The heart of David’s ministry is being true to our heritage and relevant to our times – what it means to be a Friend.

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