Workshop Number: 103
Leaders: Miriam Mulsow, Jaya Karsemeyer Bone
Who May Register?: Open to All
Worship/Worship-Sharing: 20%
Lecture: 5%
Discussion: 40%
Experiential Activities: 35%

Who May Attend?
only full time attenders (participants should attend all week)

Conversations, Role Play, and Sharing of Stories for Friends of European Descent at a beginning to intermediate level. We will grow, together, in our understanding of privilege and the barriers Friends may unknowingly create to a welcoming, nourishing, beloved community. Learn to recognize and interrupt microaggressions.

Workshop Description

What do you do when you witness subtle, unintended behavior or speech that gives someone the message that they are not included (microaggressions)?  How do you relate to that member of your Meeting who pushes back against anti-racism actions or conversations?  What do you say when your family member or coworker uses inappropriate language, then says that the target is being “too sensitive”?  How do you offer support without speaking for another person?  In this entry to mid-level workshop, we will discuss how to recognize microaggressions and tools to use when these situations arise.  We will role play using these tools, and we will practice having conversations around race with other Friends of European Descent. 

We will start the week with getting to know each other.  Over the course of the week, we will share stories of times when we didn’t quite know what to do, times when we felt as if we fell short, and times when we got it right.  We will discuss how we can recognize when microaggressions are happening.  We will introduce tools for turning microaggressions into microinterventions and for interrupting racial harm.  We will begin each day with about 20-30 minutes of worship.  Tools we will use during the course of the week include role play, discussions, worship sharing, and interactive exercises. 


1. Microintervention Toolkit by Derald Wing Sue:…

2. How Microaggressions Keep Hurting—and How to Interrupt by The Chicago Community Trust:…

Video Only:

3. So You Want to Talk About Race? by Ijeoma Oluo (This was selected over other videos available because she was talking to an audience that thought they were already anti-racist (like Friends?), but she talked about how they weren’t):

Leader Experience

Jaya and Miriam co-facilitated the White Affinity Spaces during the Gathering (online) in 2021 and during Central Committee in 2021.  Miriam facilitated the White Affinity Space during the People of Color and Partners online retreat in spring 2021.  Miriam gave an entry-level workshop in 2014 entitled: Quakers and Privilege? What can we DO?.  Miriam and Jaya have each also facilitated Meetings for Worship for Racial Healing and Listening Sessions in the People of Color Center at Gatherings.  Jaya took the Fit for Freedom training and attended Weaving Sacred Wholeness. Miriam has served as a facilitator of an interest group for Friends with an interest in the White Privilege Conference. She helped to develop and served as co-leader of a workshop on Microaggressions for Central Committee, along with Jean-Marie Barch, and Jaya facilitated small group discussions for this same workshop.  Miriam served on the Transforming subcommittee for six years and Jaya served for three years.  Jaya and Miriam have both served on the Institutional Assessment and Implementation Committee for two and one years, respectively.  Jaya has served as co-facilitator of the Toronto Monthly Meeting Anti-Racism group for two years, as a member of the Anti-Racism group at Humbercrest Junior and Senior Public Schools for two years, and as a participant in Racism Conversations in Toronto for two years.  Miriam has worked on issues of racial justice and understanding for 23 years through her role at Texas Tech University.  She is a professor and teaches Development in Cross Cultural Perspectives, an undergraduate class, as well as Family Strengths and Diversity, a graduate class.  Each of these classes addresses issues of privilege and how privilege creates barriers between us.  She has served as co-leader with Anne Collins for an South Central Yearly Meeting workshop on these same issues.  She also served for three years on the Inclusion and Diversity Committee and worked with the Board of Directors and the Conference Planning Committee of the National Council on Family Relations to help them identify and eliminate barriers to participation by members and participants of color, LGBTQI members, and international members. 

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